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Ask, Don’t Tell
Okay, say you find yourself in what appears to be a deteriorating conversation, and you can feel the tension growing.
Quickly check yourself. Are you doing all the talking? Are you working hard to have your point of view heard? Are you attempting to persuade someone to your way of doing things? If you find yourself doing any of these, stop! Take a breath, and immediately change your approach to being ask-assertive.
Assignment
Recall a time when you saw a situation go from bad to worse. Were you doing a lot of talking, telling the other person your viewpoint, working to persuade him to see yours? How might being ask-assertive have helped in that situation?
What’s that, you ask? Well, it’s an approach that allows you to still ...
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