By Kathryn Zonghetti
Kathryn Zonghetti is an empowerment strategist at Purposeful Challenges: Discover Your True Capabilities. You can subscribe to her YouTube channel here.
We all have a story that needs to be shared with the world. We are all fighting our own battle. The best way to face our own challenges and adversity is by being vulnerable and authentic with others.
Share your story
“Your story inspired me to be myself.” These are the powerful words that were said to me when I shared my vulnerabilities and story with the world. The fear of sharing my true self with others kept me from inspiring others to do the same for many years. I chose to share my message through public speaking and social media.
Several years ago I had a fear of public speaking. I decided to join Toastmasters, a club for practicing public speaking. But I was terrified to set foot in it for the first time. I was motivated to enhance my public speaking skills because I believed that I had a message to share with the world. I believed that my story would resonate with others. But, I didn’t want to be judged by others. What if I stumbled on my words? What if I turned bright red? What if I tripped? Many thoughts ran through my mind before joining this public speaking club. I took a deep breath and made it happen. This offered me the ability to learn from my mistakes in a safe and judgment free environment.
Social media is the perfect way to share your insights and stories with the public. From LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, to Tumblr, Pinterest, and Instagram. We have the opportunity to express ourselves and share our message. The goal is to focus on what motivates YOU, not what you think would motivate everyone else. This way, if the external praise subsides during some points (which it will), you will continue to keep going and not give up.
After years of experience in the personal and professional development industry, it always seems to come back to 3 things that hold us back:
1) Self Doubt
To overcome our own self-doubt is true success. In today’s world, it’s easy to compare ourselves to others and to quite frankly, never feel ‘good enough’. The goal is to fall in love with ourselves. Not in a conceited way, that would be counterproductive. We are with ourselves all of the time. However, the majority of the time, we allow other people’s perception of us take over what we truly know in our hearts to be true.
2) Fear of failure
Perfection. Perfection. Perfection. The fear of making mistakes stunts our growth and development. In order to learn and grow, we NEED to fail. Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But, that means we are learning. We fear putting ourselves out there to protect ourselves from making mistakes. It would be a shame knowing that you never failed in this life because it means that you didn’t allow yourself to be stretched enough.
3) Being judged by others
We allow people to gain power over and dictate our own internal dialogue! Ironically enough, that very person who you feel is judging you is also worried about being judged by others. Not to mention, a person’s view of you may take only a few minutes of their day but a large percentage of YOUR daily emotional energy. It simply doesn’t make sense.
Change “what if” from a negative to a positive!
The common dialogue when it comes to sharing your story with the world through speaking and social media:
- What if no one resonates with my story?
- What if I fail as a speaker or a writer?
- What if people laugh at me?
- What if people don’t like it?
… the list goes on.
What if your story saves lives?
Safari Helps You Tell Your Story
- In “Overcoming Nervous Nelly,” author Michael Blanding discusses “The Anxious Mind” and how to improve your performance despite fear and anxiety.
- Learn how to handle questions during a presentation, structure your information, and take advantage of visual aids in “Painless Presentations: The Proven, Stress-Free Way to Successful Public Speaking.”
- Enhance your social media presence with “Mastering Story, Community and Influence: How to Use Social Media to Become a Socialeader.”
- And, Nick Morgan explains how to “Take Control of Your Nonverbal Communication” in this video from Harvard Business Review Press.