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If we take control of our stories, they won’t control us. People who excel at dialogue are able to influence their emotions during crucial conversations. They recognize that while it’s true that at first we are in control of the stories we tell—after all, we do make them up of our own accord—once they’re told, the stories control us. They first control how we feel and then how we act. And as a result, they control the results we get from our crucial conversations.


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How often are we told to communicate, "When you did 'this', it made me feel like 'this'"? Although, sincere, this is not true because we decide what stories we tell ourselves (aka, what assumptions we make about a situation/person).